4 NLP Lessons From Tony Robbins


Anthony Robbins has introduced more people to Neurolinguistic Programming than anyone else I can think of. And while many practitioners frequently dismiss him as being no more than a showman, a businessman or a “disco” NLPer, we can still learn much from him. I for one have participated in almost all of his trainings, for reasons I’ll explain in greater details in this article.

1. Model.

Anthony Robbins achieved what he achieved because he understood and practices constantly the core discipline of Neurolinguistic Programming: modeling. In an interview, John Grinder retells of the days when Anthony Robbins was his student. He recounts that once the seminar ended, Tony approached him and said he understood that modeling lied at the heart of the field and that he was committed to modeling. He then asked Grinder what project he could undertake to prove his commitment. John Grinder suggested firewalking. “The rest,” as Grinder puts it, “is history.” Anthony Robbins is primarily a modeler and you must adopt this identity.


  1. says

    I appreciate your article and agree that modeling is at the heart of NLP and TR is a fantastic self-promoter. I just watched a video of him working his magic – it is impressive. In the end, I think it is all about TR, though, and this is the problem I have. Without him, though, I wouldn\’t have discovered NLP, so I am on the fence. Nice post.

  2. Bill says

    I think we can learn from anyone. I used to be prejudiced against reading novels, for example, preferring to stick to the “real” stuff. Nowadays I still read mostly nonfiction, but have realized it’s all just ideas anyway!

    The third point is very important. I also have a tendency to stick to the “mental” and forget the other half.

    And the fourth point is interesting. I’d never thought of it before, but Grinder really does seem to “walk his talk” more than Bandler. Maybe Bandler bought into the “wounded healer” thing, I dunno.

    Great post!

    • Martin Messier says

      Hey Bill,

      You wrote: “The third point is very important. I also have a tendency to stick to the “mental” and forget the other half.”

      Remember, mind/body is actually a single system. Like software and hardware. A friend of mine once described the difference using the following words: “Software aligns hardware.”

      Paraphrasing Ken Wilber, I’d say that body determines the possibilities of mind, and mind determines the probabilities of body.


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