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In a few entries, I’ll link you up to models and strategies that I find effective in my own business dealings.
I found this interview yesterday that gives you a great scoop inside Brad Bird’s mind. Enjoy!
My posting hiatus was due to my well-deserved vacation. How delicious! My wife and I enjoyed a full week in São Paulo, Brazil, where I delighted in incredible surroundings. After all, São Paulo is one of the largest metropolis in the world and offers to its residents and visitors a great many options for entertainment.
I really took advantage of my stay there to stimulate my senses as much as possible. On the second day, I treated myself to a full bodied Asian massage — São Paulo has the world’s second largest Japanese community. It was so amazing that I returned for repeats before the end of my sojourn.
The massage made me realize how ample our kinesthetics are and how little I explore mine. Having someone else touch and tease out all the tension lodged in different body points while I relaxed allowed me to discover how many kinesthetic sub-modalities go unnoticed in my day-to-day.
For starters, try feeling temperature through your foot. Unbelievable! It was the first time in my life I turned my attention to this. I’m so focused on the upper part of my body that I forget that every single kinesthetic distinction can be experienced at every body part.
What about feeling pressure with your forearm?
What about feeling moisture with your knee?
What about feeling vibration with your ears?
Stop for a second allow yourself to feel the blood flow in your legs. Had you ever done that before?
Pull up the almost complete list of kinesthetic submodalities and test out each of them using different body parts. You’ll be blown away!
I read it every day… All day… In so many different places…
“Use NLP to motivate yourself!”
“Overcome financial self-sabotage using NLP!”
“Use NLP and EFT to overcome self-esteem issues!”
These ads, in my opinion, are the bane of NLP and contribute to a great extent to the lack of credibility the field gets. Imagine what would happen to traditional psycho-analysis if ads started showing up saying:
“Overcome financial self-sabotage using psycho-analysis!”
“Attract the love of your life using Gestalt!”
If you’re a serious student of NLP, learn it as a discipline. NLP is the Jeet Kun-Do of therapy. In and of itself, it is nothing. It integrates the most effective tools and techniques from all fields. So you’ll find Gestalt, Psycho-analysis, Transactional Analysis, Rogerian Counseling, Ericksonian Hypnosis, Rational Emotive Therapy, and others in the works of NLP.
Some therapists sometimes hear my seminars and tell me:
“But Martin, that’s Rational Emotive Therapy…”
My answer is: “Yes! Good job!”
The deal is, it’s the piece of Rational Emotive Therapy THAT WORKS.
That’s the NLP distinction.
It leverages the pieces that work and forget the rest.
In a recent post on his blog, business and marketing guru Seth Godin wrote:
“The problem, of course, is that pretty soon you start looking at the entire world that way. Whether it’s web design or Google analytics or backing up your hard drive or just talking to the guys in the plant about your new ideas, it’s really easy to see the world as a black box.
Here’s a simple secret of success: ignore the sticker.
Figure out how to use the tools that the most successful people in your field understand innately.”
That’s probably the best advice — most succinctly expressed — that I’ve heard for any field in long time. Inadvertently (or advertently), Seth just gave the NLP Modeling nudge: model those who produce the results you’re after.
Model those who get it.
Is it really that complicated? No way.
The thing is, Seth isn’t the first or only one saying this. Teachers from every walk of life have talked about this.
So why am I mentioning this here?
Because NLP can equip you with the knowledge and skills you’ll need to carry that out surgically instead of haphazardly. Because it will crack open the black box of the human mind for you and will enable you to track the thinking patterns of the geniuses whose results you’d like to emulate.
And you will emulate them once you learn how to model and commit to making it a part of your life.
In the realm of personal development, you’ll hear two words pretty often: change and transformation.
I want to make sure you understand the difference between the two. It’s not that complicated but it’s sure worth distinguishing the two.
Whenever you hear the word “change”, one way you can understand it is this: it refers to changing your behavior or the way you feel. It means that you alter your actions or your reactions to them.
Transformation, on the other hand, means something much more profound. When you transform, you expand your dimensions to become more of yourself.