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Do you have a little voice in your head that drives you crazy?
Yesterday, I missed a step. Didn’t send you your daily dose of NLP.
I started putting the finishing touches on the Straight Line Results System at 6:30 in the morning and wasn’t done until 3 in the afternoon.
And even then, there was still a little glitch in the payment processing. Fortunately, I got messages from interested clients and was able to get it fixed by early evening.
This just goes to show you the importance of being detached from plans.
No matter how much you plan, the unforeseen can still get you off your game.
What matters is two things:
1. Knowing how to manage your state, and
2. Getting back to the next step in the Straight Line.
Just as craftsmen start grinding out useless, parasitic steps in their work processes, I’m starting to notice that all of my coaching revolves around two or three fundamental approaches.
When handled correctly, these fundamentals produce 96% of all the results.
That’s when the craft becomes art.
Once you know the fundamentals so deeply, you’re able to play with the process.
And then, magic happens – in any craft.
You’ll see it in piano players. You’ll see it in painters. You’ll see it in stonecutters.
Once they reach a certain level, there’s an effortless grace to their work.
It’s a beauty to behold.
That’s how you see Tony perform in his interventions. He can take them any which way because he understands perfectly the phenomena unfolding before his eyes.
That level of mastery only comes from extensive experience. Doing it over and over and over until you’re performing at a near unconscious level.
So it’s cool to experience the craft of NLP coaching chiseling itself as you work with more and more people.
Better still, to be able to apply these new distinctions to yourself.
That way, when you fall off the bandwagon, you get back to your game quickly.
Plan, just to make sure you understand what you’re doing. But forget that plan as soon as you finish it. Life won’t allow you to follow it.
Even better than planning, get yourself a Straight Line for anything you want to accomplish.
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In today’s edition of DailyNLP, I talk about the power of formulating your action plan in a way that motivates and empowers you to act.
Often, my coaching clients come to me with huge plans of what they will accomplish.
It’s very impressive.
However, it holds one problem. It doesn’t move them forward.
Stop for a second and consider your to-do list.
Do you feel psyched about working the plan? Are you excited about what’s before you today?
If not, you need to tweak the plan.
You have to wordsmith it in a way that directly connects and taps into your primal motivation.
You also have to structure it following your natural work tendencies.
For instance, if you like to connect with others, your work plan MUST involve that.
Otherwise, the work plan will feel like pulling nails.
Do that exercise today.
Evaluate your to-do list emotionally. Are you thrilled by it?
If not, reformulate it.
If you want a partner to help you do it, book a session with me.
Together, we’ll get you rolling at a speed you’re not accustomed to.
You can request more information about my coaching sessions here:
Talk to you tomorrow,
A pattern interrupt involves breaking an individual’s habitual thought or behavioral pattern so as to shake it up.
Sometimes, an existing pattern of behavior will have a particularly “deep groove” and will be solidly conditioned in someone’s system. This can create surprising resistance and interference to the change process.
Instead of tackling this resistance head on, you can use a pattern interrupt to “swipe the legs” of the resistance.
Here’s a simple way to understand a pattern interrupt.
You’re driving to work in the morning. If you’re like me, you always take the same route from home to your office. We’re like monkeys: totally conditioned to repeat tasks in the same way, every time.
The cool thing about this is how economical it is. You don’t really have to think. You put yourself on auto-pilot, head off to Bermuda in your mind, and your unconscious mind takes care of everything for you.
And so you’re cruising along on the way, daydreaming of sun and waves, and snapping your fingers to call the waiter who instantly brings you a…
Right in front of you, a giant tree collapses onto the road, completely obstructing your path. You feel yourself slamming on the brakes and the car comes to a screeching halt as the tires try to grasp to the road.
And for a few minutes, you have absolutely no clue as to what happened or what you’re doing.
Now, your unconscious doesn’t know how to respond. It’s awaiting instructions either from your conscious mind or from someone who’s conscious.
Here’s a classic example of a pattern interrupt as described by Milton Erickson in his book Advanced Techniques on Hypnosis and Therapy (1967)
One of the physicians present (at a lecture on hypnosis) was most interested in learning hypnosis, listened attentively during the lecture, but in the social hour preceding the lecture, he had repeatedly manifested hostile aggressive behavior toward most of his colleagues. When introduced to the author, he shook hands with a bone-crushing grip, almost jerked the author off his balance (the man was at least 6 inches taller than the author and about 66 lbs heavier) and aggressively declared without any preamble that he would like to “see any damn fool try to hypnotize me.”
When volunteers for a demonstration were requested, he came striding up and in a booming voice announced “Well, I’m going to show everybody that you can’t hypnotize me.” As the man stepped up on the platform, the author slowly arose from his chair as if to greet him with a handshake. As the volunteer stretched forth his hand prepared to give the author another bone-crushing handshake, the author bent over and tied his own shoe strings slowly, elaborately and left the man standing helplessly with his arm outstretched. Bewildered, confused, completely taken aback at the author’s nonpertinent behavior, at a total loss for something to do, the man was completely vulnerable to the first comprehensible communication fitting to the situation that was offered him. As the second shoe string was being tied the author said “Just take a deep breath, sit down in that chair, close your eyes, and go deeply into a trance.” After a brief casual startled reaction, my subject said “Well I’ll be damned! But how? Now do it again so I can know how you are doing it.”
He was offered a choice of several traditional techniques. He chose the hand- levitation method as seeming the more interesting, and this technique was employed slowly, both for his benefit and that of the audience, with another somnambulistic trance resulting.
Pattern interrupts are really useful in that they shake up a person’s typical thoughts and actions and opens the possibility for something new to take place.
Doing this is an important part of the change process. Obviously, it’s much easier to influence and redirect an unstable pattern than a rigid one.
When a pattern is interrupted completely, the person is left without a next step in their thought process or behavior, and naturally opens up to whatever next step is offered to him or her by the situation.
In other words, the person whose pattern is interrupted becomes highly influenceable.
This sometimes can present a problem when trying to change your own or someone else’s habitual patterns of thought, emotion or behavior. You want to change but your unconscious keeps doing the same thing over and over and over.
What the heck do you do?
Here’s the key principle that allows you to make changes in your behavior:
The unconscious mind isn’t effective at making decisions. That skill belongs to the conscious mind.
And herein lies the power of the pattern interrupt. And this is your opportunity to leverage the Pattern Interrupt NLP Technique.
To force the unconscious mind into “decision-awaiting mode,” you have to send it into a tailspin.
You have to break the habitual flow of how things happen, and force it to get into “what now?” mode.
It’s at the time of the pattern interrupt that you can insert changes into the unconscious’s programming.
When the unconscious is saying to you “OK, what do you want me to do now?
At that point, there’s space for you to insert new instructions.
Drill 1 – Interrupt your own pattern
Drill 2 – Interrupt someone else’s pattern