OK! So you’re learning NLP and you want to use a specific pattern on yourself or a buddy or a client to change a behavior or an unpleasant feeling. Of course, you’ll find A LOT of patterns from which to choose if you surf the web for just a few minutes. And it’s good that you learn as many change pattern as you can, because each pattern serves a specific function. Just as you use a hammer to drive in a nail or a saw to split a piece of wood in two (or three or four) pieces, you use a pattern to achieve a specific goal.
Now, there’s one piece you MUST learn to include in any piece of NLP or other changework if you want to achieve results right now.